Adventures in babysitting

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To this day, neither of my kids have been watched by anyone other than family members or by good family friends whom they see often. Because I'm a SAHM, it's rare that they need to be watched by others. However, family and friends can only do so much, and even then, I don't want to rely solely on them for when I need to do errands, have time to myself, or for a date night. My parents have already done their share of child rearing with my sister and I. I realize there are positives to having your children exposed to other caretakers that you're not related to, but finding the best babysitter for your kids is a difficult, sensitive, and personal decision. 

I don't feel guilty trying to find a sitter despite being a SAHM. Parenting is a full-time job where there is no clock telling you it's time to go home and be relieved of your duties and responsibilities. (there's no such thing as "vacation" either) I feel it's important as a parent, that part of that responsibility is taking care of yourself so you can better care for your family. Sometimes, that requires relinquishing your "parental duties" for a few hours to someone else and doing things for yourself. Heck, running errands such as going to the grocery store or going to the doctor is easier if you don't bring kids along. But having a sitter is a luxury that many parents often can't afford. My husband and I try our best to schedule "date nights" and find time for each of us to reconnect with each other and ourselves amidst hectic weeks without the luxury of a paid sitter.

There are also cheaper alternatives to finding a babysitter or a nanny. There are co-ops and nanny shares available in your community. If there isn't, perhaps you should start one. Life is expensive and difficult at times with children. Even in the Philippines, the privileged few who can find afford a "yaya", still have a hard time finding ones that are trustworthy, reliable, and good with kids. 

As it stands now, the hubs and I are looking for a sitter or take part in a nanny share. This is a whole new world for us. I am in search for an experienced, jovial, adores kids, CPR certified, active (I've got a toddler and an antsy baby), affordable, and comes with references, sitter. If you happen to know one in Oakland or Alameda, please let me know. I'm using all available resources to find one (yes, I've reached out to fellow moms in my area, mothers groups, online resources). I'm sure there'll be someone who can fit the bill.